Malay Customs

Malay Wedding Customs
In traditional Malay wedding, there are several important stages. First is the level merisik.
This custom is also called a survey or menengok. In Malay culture, this tradition is the early stages of male and female betroth, which involves a meeting between representatives of the family of the elderly male with a virgin. The meeting was considered important to respect the family of the virgin, as if the expression in the Malay tradition to propose to his son, his father pinanglah mother first. Explained that the expression of views and the blessing of parents must be obtained prior to make decisions such as marriage. The purpose of this custom was to ensure that girls love a man has not committed. This is important, because in Islam a person is forbidden to woo the bridegroom. In addition, this tradition is also intended to investigate the background of the girl. Typically, this tradition will be carried out by the nearest relatives of the men as the mother or uncle. The procession merisik done with determination and polite to protect and preserve the good name of both parties.
On behalf of the girls, there are several criteria that must be considered before accepting a proposal among the men is that men should have a religious background and have good jobs.
When representatives of the men arrived at the house the virgin, the representative of the family of man will be talking about living conditions, employment, and current issues sembil enjoy a meal served and delivered personally by the virgin. At the virgin serve meals that the representative of the men the opportunity to see the face of the Virgin. After that, the topic of discussion from the focus to communicate the purpose of the coming of the male, and the poem to be heard by the interpreter merisik begin their talk. At this stage, the hearts of male state needs to "pick the flowers that are menguntum" not a virgin when the couple.